Post-Apology Stage: Commit

"Never put off until tomorrow what you can do today."

– Thomas Jefferson, Third President of the United States of America

The final stage focuses on setting new standards for the relationship’s future through action

Victim

The victim now carries expectations, maybe even optimism. They will be monitoring the wrongdoer to see if promises for restitution are kept. Just because a victim does not bring up their observations in conversation does not mean they are not keeping close tabs on progress or commitment.

Wrongdoer

The wrongdoer now holds a clear roadmap to earning forgiveness. The wrongdoer is also now in a much stronger, more informed position than when they started. At this stage, there are 'no excuses.' The greatest risk now is becoming complacent merely because the apology went well.

Steps of Commit Stage