The Negotiated Apology

The most dangerous negotiation is the one you don’t know you’re in.

– Christopher Voss, FBI hostage negotiator

An apology is:

Negotiation

A negotiation…

Handshake

…for forgiveness.

Forgiveness

the victim’s release of the wrongdoer from responsibility of pain caused by the wrongdoer’s harmful conduct

harm

damage to victim resulting from damaging conduct

victim

the person who suffered from a harmful conduct and is due an apology

Wrongdoer

the person who did a harmful conduct to another and owes an apology

three stages of The Negotiated Apology